How To Get Out of the Friend Zone

Most men, at one point or another, have been caught in the friend zone. For any of you who are unfamiliar with this term, the friend zone is a place where men go to die. OK maybe it isn't all that bad, but it's bad. It's a place filled with confusion, frustration, and even resentment.

What you need to understand is there are specific reasons and behaviors that get men caught in this trap, which will be discussed in this article. There are ways to get yourself out. However, the crazy thing is that once you learn the solution to this problem, you may no longer need it.

Men get caught in the friend zone when they fail to make an appropriate "move" on the girl that they are interested in. You may think you made a move, but chances are you didn't. A move doesn't have to be taking a girl and suddenly kissing her, although that is certainly a great way to get the job done. A move can be verbally expressing the fact that you would like to be romantic with this girl in one way or another, or it can be more subtle like holding hands.

The one thing that your move must have in common with all others is that it shows the girl that you are man enough to demonstrate your interest. You can't expect women to be mind readers. They have been programmed to expect men to make the first move. And in a way, it sort of is our responsibility. That isn't always the case, but it usually is.

Other behaviors that are responsible for getting you caught in the friend zone include:

- Playing therapist as she complains about her ex-boyfriend

- Going shopping with her

- Trying to solve all of her life's problems

- Don't get me wrong, these behaviors are perfectly OK if you want to be her friend or are ALREADY her boyfriend. But these are not going to help you attract her in a romantic way in the beginning. Remember, she has girlfriends for this stuff.

So just how does one learn how to get out of the friend zone? You never get in it in the first place! "Aw this article sucks". Don't worry, I'm not going to leave you hanging like that. But I do want to bring this point up because it really is the overall answer to your problem.

You see, when you meet a girl, you have two options. The first one is to be her friend, and the other is to be her man or boyfriend. If you don't make a move, you will automatically become her friend, unless she is just super into you and makes the first move. On the other hand, if you do make a move, now there is at least some hope that you won't be just friends. Remember, you miss 100% of the shots that you don't take. Let's say you make a move on a girl and she doesn't reciprocate. Then you just say, "Oops I thought we had a moment". Then just be cool and say well I guess we can just be friends then.

At this point, you will now know that she is just not interested in you in that way and you can either choose to create an ACTUAL friendship with her or just move on. This brings me to my next point which is, stop being so attached. There are about 3.5 billion women in this world and they are making new ones everyday. So stop with the scarce mentality. If anything, this is only adding fuel to the fire. Women are not attracted to men who are desperate, needy, and dependent.

What you need to do, is step away from the situation entirely. If you have hobbies, get back to them. If you don't, find some. Just start to develop a high quality life and just spend less time with this particular gal. Go out and meet new people. Focus on your career. Just be less available to her and give her the gift of missing you. When she calls or texts you asking where you have been, just tell her that you are busy.

You want to make sure that you aren't doing this for a specific result but that you are doing it because you want to grow and be a better person because of it. The last thing you want to do is play therapist for a girl all day. Your time is valuable and so are you, so act like it.

"So how exactly does this teach me how to get out of the friend zone"? Well if you actually took this information to heart and applied it then one of two things will have happened.

1. She will have noticed the sudden change in you and will now want some of your valuable time, which will now come at a premium;-).

2. Your new outlook on life will have transformed you and maybe even change the way you see this particular girl.

This goes back to what was said earlier about you potentially not even needing the solution once you've obtained it. Once you have learned how to create a great and abundant life, you will now see this girl in a whole new light. You may not even end up wanting that a romantic relationship with that girl anymore, because you have opened up your world and grown as a person. Sometimes solutions just dissolve the problem entirely. This may very well be the case.

If after these efforts, you still were not able to change the girl's mind, then it is time to move on. Respect her decision and life choices. Nobody likes to be hounded. Just remember that the world is filled with abundance and if you tap into it, you will be taken care of.


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